Most of the courses available
on getting your ex back all give the same advice. Wait four weeks or so
and have no contact with them. Then call and see if they want to talk to
you.
The idea here is that after a
month they won't be so mad and will be more willing to talk. You
are hoping that they will get over their anger or hurt when you follow
this plan.
This approach is based on the theory that time heals all wounds. You
know, when they dumped you they were upset, after four weeks or so they
wont be mad anymore. Further, the hope is that they will feel more like
forgiving you and will have started to miss you some.
This method of getting back with your ex has some value in some specific
situations. There are times when you may need to use it. Each
situation and each break up is different and so you may need it
depending on what is happening as you try to reconnect.
But, for the most part, it can
create a lot of problems. It is not the one you want to try
FIRST. The anger your ex may feel can simmer and fester for all
those weeks. Their heart can harden towards you in that time. Also, they
may start dating someone else. When there is someone else in the
picture, their heart strings start to attach to the new person, making
it extremely difficult to get them back.
To avoid losing your ex to another person, you may want to try a more
direct approach. There are some immediate reconnect strategies that will
often work to get an ex back in hours or days, not months.
Let's say you cheated on your ex and they kicked you out last week. They
feel betrayed and like they can never trust you again. This is
completely understandable. To get them back more quickly,
you need to understand that feelings change. In a month, maybe a year,
they will get over and won't be mad forever. Feelings do change.
You just need to learn how to help them change faster, and it can be
done with some simple emotional logic.
The big important key to understand to get your ex back fast is that you
yourself can help their feelings to change. You don't have to wait on
mother time to heal the wounds. Two ways to accomplish this are by
making a certain kind of deep apology, and helping them to get their
negative feelings off their chest.
When combined, these two methods can help your ex release their hurt
feelings. This makes room for forgiveness, which is the first step to
taking your back. So venting and apologizing in the right way can get
your ex back in hours instead of weeks or months.
If you would like to get your
ex back without waiting weeks, you can get a free course here on
Getting Your Ex Back Fast.
