Everybody thinks they need to
do all the talking to get their ex back. That is often not the
case. It can be just as important to listen in a particular way.
You see, there are lots of
reasons that relationships break up. Two of the three main reasons
relationships break up are that you wronged your mate or they wronged
you. If you cheated on your ex or fought with them too much, you wronged
them. If they committed infidelity or were too controlling, for example,
they wronged you.
In either of these cases, there is one key step to getting your ex back
fast that is almost always overlooked. Nobody pays attention to it, yet
it is one of the key strategies you need if you want to get your ex back
fast " in hours or days, instead of weeks or months. This key step has
to do with listening.
That's because a key to get
your ex back is to let them vent. You know what venting is. It is also
called getting things off your chest. This is a vital step in getting
your ex back fast. Why?
Because their good feelings towards you have now been replaced by bad
ones. Hurt, anger, sadness. That's obvious. So the question becomes, how
can you help them to release those negative feelings besides wait six
months to see if they get over it? Is there a way to speed up the
process of resolving negative feelings?
The way to resolve bad feelings fast is to vent them. To get them off
one's chest. If they cheated on you, you need to vent to them. If you
cheated on your ex, they have some negative feelings they will drag
around for a long time unless you help them to vent.
To oversimplify, you call them
up and ask them how they feel about what you did to them. Then be silent
and let them put their emotions into words and start getting them off
their chest. You have to work on shutting up and listening.
Look at it like a balloon filling with the hot air of negative feelings.
You want to prick the balloon by inviting your ex to vent. It's not
hard, but it takes a bit of practice. You want to make them feel heard
and understood. You don't argue or explain or defend yourself.
There is much more specific detail and training available on how to use
this kind of listening effectively in getting your ex back. But you have
probably already used this tool many times in your life to feel better
by venting to a friend after a hard day, for example. So you
should understand its power in letting your ex vent all over you.
Venting, along with a few other steps, can make a big difference in
getting your ex back fast. It can help you get them back in hours
instead of waiting months and hoping they will get over it eventually! If you would like to get your
ex back using venting, and want more details, you can check out a complete 7
Step Strategy here at
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